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That doesn't mean you never listen to other people, but it does mean you have such a strong sense of inner security that your identity is planted in concrete, not sand. Weakness can also be a major problem for bosses and managers. I've seen it many times in my coaching career. I once saw a manager who had such a complex about his employees out-performing him that he would purposely take credit for their work. If he took the time to strengthen his inner "me" around his team, he'd quickly realize that he had a weakened sense of his own worth as a coach. In reality, it was his contributions as a coach that led his employees' positive results.
By denying them the joy of success, he was denying himself his own progress. Again, that's a weak "me" problem, and it can be extremely damaging to your progress.
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Jason Forrest. Guest Writer. March 15, 5 min read. Opinions expressed by Entrepreneur contributors are their own. If you can't change the way things work in the office, consider ways to help you cope with those problems. Being more proactive and less negative may not fix everything, but it can improve your situation.
Photo by Mark Samson. Take a pay cut and get some extra job flexibility in return. Apparently many of you wouldn't mind that option at all , and your company probably would love to pay you less. If you want to cut back on your hours, work from home on occasion, or get some other benefit that's important to you, ask for a pay cut in exchange.
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You might just get it, and that benefit may make you a lot happier than money. When you hate your job, it's easy to not want to get involved with your co-workers. Doing so means getting attached, and you don't want to feel attached to any kind of employment that's destroying your livelihood. That said, if you have friends at work you have people to make you less miserable. Also, according to one study, you might actually live longer. Even if you don't think you'll get along with certain people in the office, give it a shot.
If it doesn't work out, you can always just go back to being a loner. Finding balance is easier said than done, but small, strategic changes can make a big difference. Sometimes it's not so much that the work you do is soul suckingly awful, but that it's consuming your life. Rather than find a new job and end up in the same situation all over again, stick with the one you've got and and pay attention to the small things. Take note of the little moments that make you happy and those that drive you up the wall.
Try to remove the details you hate and replace it with more of the details you like. Big, grand decisions can be pleasing for a short amount of time, but if you never fix the little problems and neglect to embrace the little moments of happiness, history will be doomed to repeat itself. Photo by Shutterstock. If work sucks, chances are your boss has something to do with it.
But you can learn to cope. One way to deal with your boss' insanity is to create some distance. For example, see if you can have your assignments filtered though someone else. You may also want to keep a crazy log and get as much as you can in writing so should things ever get so bad that you need to go to human resources you will be prepared. Just be sure not to engage your boss in a crazy contest, because they're probably better at it than you are. For more details, read this. Photo by Powderruns.
If you're truly at the end of your rope and there's no way you'll survive much longer, you need to create a quitting plan. Yes, you think you have to stay to pay your rent, and yes, you think you'll never find another job in this market. Save up enough money to make it at least one month and then you need to quit. Your problem might be with a bad manager, that you constantly feel stretched to the breaking point, or that you are resentful about taking a pay cut.
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Or, the whole environment may just feel toxic. You might need to stay […].
Whatever your reasons for being unhappy, you need to maintain your professionalism and prevent a bad attitude from sabotaging you. He suggests observing the feelings and not expecting anything. Similarly, Joe Mosca, an associate professor in the Leon Hess Business School at Monmouth University, who specializes in human resources management and organizational behavior, agrees that looking within is the first step.
But if you are part of the problem, you may be part of the solution, too.
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She once performed very dull work in a book bindery but avoided becoming negative about the job by finding a way to make it less boring. Indications that you need to address your emotions may be physical or behavioral, explains Catherine McCarthy , a clinical psychologist and COO of The Energy Project, an organizational consulting firm. The signs include feeling distracted, sluggish, angry or irritable, not sleeping well or sleeping excessively, relying on alcohol or food to comfort yourself, and withdrawing from friends and activities.
Some EAPs will help you find a counselor, and all are bound by healthcare and workplace laws to keep your request confidential. There are also things you can try to change in your approach to your job.
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Face the reality head-on. China Gorman, chief global member engagement officer of the Society for Human Resource Management SHRM reminds workers that during a recession or slow recovery, people at all levels experience the pain.
But begin taking steps to change things.